Crushing Marigolds with Gandhi’s Control Theory & Johari Window: Perception of Self & Others

Johari Window is an approach that aids in understanding relationships, whether it be with oneself or with others. Designed by psychologists Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham, it is a heuristic exercise that allows for a deep dive into how much information about a person is HIDDEN and a recognition of what all about that person is in the OPEN.

For an authentic SELF to develop, an expansion of the OPEN area is critical.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.” ~ Rumi
Two months after I first meet my cousin Rana, the police ask me to come and identify a body.
A day before Rana’s arrival in India from London, papa called to ask me to pick up Rana from the airport and arrange for his stay. I could vividly picture the scene in the courtyard of my house where Hitesh uncle’s phone call from London would have been discussed and dissected a thousand times before papa would have called me. My parents and my younger sister live in Gujrat, hundreds of kilometers away from Delhi. I came here a year ago for a job.

“Hitesh never came to visit us in the last 30 years, wonder why his son is here!” Papa’s voice took an alarming tone while talking to me. “Be careful! We don’t know how he has been raised. Don’t let his Western ideas spoil your upbringing.”

Rana walked toward the sign that I was holding with an easy swagger. He was unusually tall, well-built, and friendly. In the taxi, he told me he came to India because he had a calling.

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